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GIVE UP!




Do you ever pause for a while and thank the universe for all those times it saved you from the things/people you thought you cannot live in the absence of but you actually ended up living pretty well without?

When you look back at things from a fresh and unbiased perspective now, I am sure you realise these were truly the reasons for making your life miserable.

All I have ever heard is not to GIVE UP! Be unstoppable, never stop trying, you can fix your own environment, have a winning mindset, and so I did. But, little did I understand, can you win over something that's not yours to win, can you fix something that's not yours to fix?

All you have to win over are your battles, all you have to fix is your own goddamn self. It is not on you to mend everything and everyone's life. Crisis management is not your full-time job. Stop taking it that seriously. When everyone was busy preaching not to give up, I wonder why I didn't leave sooner? I wish someone told us that there are times that giving up is the only resolve, sooner rather than later.

Nevertheless, take some time out to express your gratitude towards the universe for all the potential hurt, drama, and disrespect it saved you. Appreciate yourself too for all the not-so-sure escapes you made that you now term as, Phew! That was a close call!

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