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Two people will never be compatible enough if they constantly feel threatened by each other’s actions, be it personal or professional. And I feel it’s high time when we start addressing the fact that for two people to work things out between them, there has to be acceptance. 

Acceptance of the fact that none of them is going to let go of what they already have. It has taken them years to build for themselves, to finally carve into what they’ve always dreamt of. Everyone works half their life to reach where they really want to be and what is beyond my understanding is why to let go of a major part of what you are, who you are,  in order to fit in the new arrangements? 

Making little adjustments here and there is a part of our routine but why do we expect our partners to make sacrifices? Why are we so threatened by the opinions and choices our partners are willing to make in order to grow?

Love isn’t the end of the world; we don’t need to stop growing because we found someone to spend the rest of our life with. It should be like a desirable addition because now you’ve got someone’s back and that someone, has got yours.

Why can’t we just nourish each other, work on strengthening the roots rather than clipping each other’s wings?

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